Advantages of marriage with European men
Our Expert is Galina Bitner-Schroeder. She is certified Life and Business Coach, psychologist, owner of the European Elite Marriage Agency, dating and international marriage consultant.
What benefits a woman faces when she gets married with European man.
The first one is the quality of life. To compare with my life in Ukraine I lived just in an apartment. What is my life looks like since I have got married? I have a house of 300 sq.m.., three toilets, two bathtubs, a terrace, a garden… Moreover, my husband is not a millionaire at all he belongs to middle class who worked all his life, earning and making a career.
By the way, our women don’t fit millionaire. 95% of them do not correspond them. But the most women can expect a good middle-class man. And it is within their power.
The second is to get over material problems. There is no need thinking where to get money to pay bills and buy new shoes. I returned from a business trip, recently. My husband brought me 3 pairs of shoes. I tell him: «I have about 70 pairs of shoes:)» And he buys them again…Wardrobe breaks. These are just pleasant women’s things.
If a man loves you, he will give you presents with a great pleasure. The main thing is to realise system of his values. If a man is greedy for you it means that you did not become a value for him. They say that the Germans are greedy. No way! They get whatever they want for themselves. Of course, there are pathologically greedy men.But they are in any country.
The period of rose and candy stage is not for them. Relationship for them is an investment project. The man thinks whether he likes the women whether she makes him happy and then he is ready to buy something and pay for everything. And when my husband says that the weather is bad outside, so for me there are not a bad weather. It’s true. Why? Because I have a lot of clothes for any season. I went through everything. I know what I am talking about. When you have one pair of shoes and feel happy getting another pair.
The third is food, drink… Men are used to living well here. Visiting restaurants is not an exclusive activity. We often have lunch and dinner in restaurants. And at home, considering that my husband eats nothing Ukrainian, he cooks by himself his usual dishes. Look, I stay at home working on the internet and writing a book. My husband comes after his working at the company and goes to cook food.
If you choose the right husband then you will have the opportunity to have some time for your own activity. This is the main difference between local and our men. They are interested in the women development. I got the degree in psychology being married with him. My husband helped and invested in my education. And when I go to Ukraine sometimes for several weeks there are no big discussions between us. My colleague was very surprised about it talking that if his wife were absent for 6 weeks at home as well as I do he would be very disagree. We laughed. But my husband and I talk about things like that. He refers to this tolerantly like Europeans do. And not each man and woman can take it but for us it’s ok.
Human rights work no matter that sometimes they are not taken seriously. They are respected. I know for sure that my first husband would never have done this. Our men prefer to oppress their women making her choose man or career-development
Respecting individual rights is a conscious act. It’s naturally to foreign men. My clients who are successfully married have the same situation. Because I taught them initially to signify their rights from the first day . Because to change things later will be much more difficult … I teach them how correctly to come forward and claim your rights since the early days but without breaking down boundaries
European men realise “My wife also has her rights and I accept her with her rights”. And we are used to build relationship on the principle a love comes with habit. «First I will be gentle and soft smiling… but then…» Nop! There is no then.
Trips, travels. I travel 3-4 times a year. Paris, Milan, Genoa, Monaco …We fly with my husband to the Canary Islands. For us it’s just a weekend.
Therefore, thinking to get married with a foreigner it’s important to understand what people in each certain country are look like, what is their values and habits. What you can get used to and what is unacceptable for you. But there are basic values which you have to take or not if you don’t want to. In this case you have to inform the man that here in a particular case you prefer being the way you are and your values are important for you. And he has understand if he is ready to take your the way you are or no.
For example, my husband doesn’t want going to Asia. Turkey Egypt…It is a straight “No” He says to me “I will not go there. If you want to, then go ”. And I want to see many things… And I will go, because he respects and accepts my opinion and desires. But I also make concessions sometimes accepting his wishes and respecting his principles.
And the culmination of relationship is love, intimacy, sex. This is the most important thing in a marriage. Unfortunately, our women live for everyone, but not for themselves. Frankly, some woman has not a man for 5-10 years. And there are many such kind of women. So long, for years they give up personal life and what they got back? One of my clients, for very long time gave up her personal life: country house, mom-dad, tomatoes should be planted, roof should be changed…I told her that this was not going to end well. And so… recently she wrote that she has a cancer…Of course, I didn’t mean it, when I warned her. Nature takes revenge when it is neglected this also must be remembered.
Dear women you should understand that millennial instincts have not been canceled. Don’t fight the nature. Because the nature always will be winning. So everything is arranged. The incidence angle is equal to the angle of reflection. It’s physics, just physics. And we live in a material, physical world.
So, pleasant things are love relationship, family, sex. This is evenings with a glass of wine on the terrace. Morning coffee… Talking …Travelling… Gifts.. Harmony and love ))
Here I remember, initially I did not know the language, I used a dictionary everywhere (now the dictionary is our family relic). Often women say: «Oh, I study the language and then I’ll go. Come on, It will never happen. Don’t kid yourself! How can you learn a language if you got home from work and there are household chores, cares and you have to learn language. You want to have some rest, spend some time with your children, friends, to go shopping, to the theatre. And about language…I’ll start on Monday)) I will think about it tomorrow. Therefore, no need to afraid unknowing the language. This is the biggest mistake of all who starts looking for a foreign husband.
And talking about marriage with a foreigner, the pleasant moment is that after 2-3 years you will fluently speak one of foreign languages. The language that 90% you didn’t speak in Ukraine and would never learn it.
And it makes an impression, when a woman speaks fluently a foreign language. It’s a pleasant bonus of being married with a foreigner.
And of course, status. Status of a married lady. It have not been canceled. Seriously. Especially, frankly, in the post-Soviet space a huge number of women, once their 40-year threshold has been crossed realise that everything is bad. And at this time children are grew up, and you need some pleasant get-together, relationship. Looking around you can see only single women. Public places, cafes, culture events full of single women. And it’s not just sad this is one more national catastrophe among other national catastrophes.
To be continued…
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